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It's Not That You Married Too Early. It's That You Chose Without Wisdom.


So many people walk around with silent regret, carrying a belief that they ruined their lives because they married too early. You hear it in their sighs. You see it in their distant eyes. They replay moments in their head, imagining what life could’ve been like if they waited.

But here’s a truth that culture doesn’t want to admit:

Most people didn’t mess up because they married early. They messed up because they chose something irreversible without wisdom.

The problem isn’t early commitment.
The problem is foolish commitment.

The Real Reasons Behind Regret

People blame timing. But timing was never the core issue.

They regret their marriages because:

  • They were led by lust, not clarity

  • They rushed in after getting themselves/someone pregnant

  • They got married after a drunken mistake or wild phase

  • They were pressured by family, friends, or church expectations

  • They feared being alone and thought marriage would fix the emptiness

In all those scenarios, wisdom was absent.

That’s the root of the pain.
Not because they were too young.
But because they never asked the right questions, never sought true counsel, and never prepared their soul.

Early Marriage Isn’t the Enemy — Delayed Wisdom Is

We live in a culture that glorifies delay.

"Wait till you’re older."
"Travel the world first."
"Make six figures."
"Sleep around and get it out of your system."

But while you’re “finding yourself,” biology isn’t waiting. Your sexual urges aren’t waiting. Your heart, your hormones, your soul — they’re not on pause just because society says you should.

The longer you delay marriage under the illusion of preparation, the more you expose yourself to:

  • Toxic relationships

  • Emotional baggage

  • Physical and mental adultery

  • Bonding with the wrong people through intimacy

And all of that? It stains your future.

Biology Is Fixed. Everything Else Is Negotiable.

You can always build a career later. You can always buy a house later.

But you can't turn back your biological clock.
You can't un-give your body to a long line of wrong people.
You can't recreate the bonding power you had in your prime.

If you’re 20 and thinking about marriage, let me tell you something:
You’re not too young. You're just in a world that’s too afraid of commitment and too obsessed with self.

Choose Better, Sooner

This isn’t a call to rush marriage. It’s a call to prepare sooner, choose wiser, and commit when your biology and soul are ready — not when the culture says you’ve hit some imaginary milestone.

No, you shouldn’t marry someone just because you’re horny.
But you also shouldn’t lie to yourself and pretend you can stay pure for 10 years while dating and still come out clean.

That’s not realistic.

Instead:

  • Seek wisdom

  • Choose someone who’s building, not just boasting

  • Align spiritually, emotionally, and directionally

  • Understand your own flaws

  • Know that no one is perfect — not even you

Delaying For Perfection Is the Real Mistake

People spend their 20s chasing freedom, hookups, and self-glory.
Then they hit 32, 35, 40 — and realize:

  • They’re jaded

  • The good ones are taken

  • Their fertility window is closing

  • They’ve lost the ability to bond purely

So they either:

  • Settle for someone who doesn’t align

  • Or live in loneliness and regret

All because they believed the lie that "waiting makes you wise."

No. Wisdom makes you wise.

And wisdom often says: Marry early — not in haste, but in vision.

Final Word: Start With the Right Foundation

God never said wait until you're rich to marry.
He never said you need ten years of experience before you can love well.

What He did say is: Commit before the days of darkness come. (Ecclesiastes 12)

Not because marriage is easy — but because sin gets louder the longer you wait.

If you’re reading this with regret, let this be your wake-up call.
It’s not too late to rebuild with wisdom.

If you’re reading this with time on your side — don’t waste it.
Choose better, sooner.

And never blame early marriage for what a lack of wisdom caused.

Marriage is sacred.
But timing without truth is a trap.

Choose wisely.
Choose early.
Choose with God.

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